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Why Misogamists are Wrong: A Rebut to “A Misogamist’s Conundrum”

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Our anonymous author tell us why Misogamists are wrong when they blame the institution of marriage without event looking into the reasons of why is it failing. A must read.

This post put me in an inebriated frame of morbidity; first because, I am currently reading the suitable boy, and second, partly due to the whole concept of marriage as an institution that we have built. For me the reason, why marriage is an institution is because, it has stood the Test of time. Another reason why it’s an institution is because, any institution which embeds itself in humour and self-loathing, yet continues to survive is an institution.

The misogamists in our society, like a fellow author pointed about, draws on a crux, which has been prevailing in society since time-immemorial. For instance, when Anuj pointed out the significant increase in wants and comfort, and money after the marriage, little did one think that the origin of marriage was based on the concept of economics. A societal structure was created to preserve wealth, pass on wealth to generations and showcase the survival of fitness.

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Why then are the misogamists complaining? If you look at the construct of marriage, it has evolved, through expected rig morale of expectations. Today it is even more visible. Take any matrimonial website, if the girl is fair, she wants a richer, smarter, better, astute looking husband. Try this, use the same photograph, same qualifications, and same job; however increase the salary by 40,000 a month and a significant increase in expectations arise. Why won’t immaturity between couples arise and conflict take its place. The system didn’t become this way, the system was designed this way. Another way to date an Indian girl is contact your astrologer and connect with your girls’ astrologer. If they are commensurate, the date happens.

I don’t want to be a marriage counsellor, but I think, no amount of medicine can help an ailing society. If the crux of marriages has to saved, it has to begin from the beginning, the same way; Vishnu did come up with avatar after an avatar to save the society, though Lord Shiva preferred destruction.

For the whole institution of marriages, we need to break the system and bring a new one. I can’t speculate, how the new system would want to be, but to emerge an institution based on a legal contract is baffling, I’d save grace to Anuj when he mentioned the reasons marriages can be viewed in a positive way. These could answer the question of, why should marriage, be a legal contract. Arranged marriages technically are statutory rates, taking the stated down measure of the first night.

One solution (which may not be practical, but a judgement call for self-illusory tendencies) is to strip down the very essence why marriages don’t work and look beyond to see, if a sub structure can sustain itself in a metaphysical verse. For instance, strip the education, caste, creed, religion, gotra, colour, race, education, employment, size, height, weight, region, city, country, expectations. You will get nothing, the nothing, which is the silence in the storm, precedes love and unconditional love can yet, save this entire institution of marriage. 

Marriage institution

Shiva: A Cultural History or Logical Myth?

India is a country of great religious and cultural diversity. Hinduism, being the oldest practiced religion in the world, abounds in Gods, Goddesses and myths. But little do we know that every myth has logic and science behind it.


Brahma, Vishnu, Maheshwar are the Godheads and they seem to be in a constant struggle for dominance. Many scholars believe that each is a manifestation of the other, thereby following the concept of one God. Among these three, Shiva is the most debated one.

The reason, perhaps, is the fact that none have been able to understand Him clearly due to His paradoxical nature. He is the stoic ascetic and the loving husband. He is the destructive power as well as the creative energy. He looks fierce and handsome. He is the wrathful God as well as the serene yogi. He encompasses all these contradictions within himself at the same time. Moreover, he is a dancer, who performs the dance of death which is the key to life.

Let’s take a look at some of His primary features or traits and attempt an analysis:

Shiva’s matted locks decked with a crescent moon


Shiva’s unkempt hair is in indication of his asceticism. This contrasts with his role as the beloved of Parvati. The crescent moon indicates the changing seasons and rejuvenation of life. This again contradicts with Shiva’s image as the destroyer.


Shiva wears a snake coiled around his upper arms and neck and waist. Snakes symbolize the Hindu concept of reincarnation. Their natural process of shedding skin is symbolic of the transmigration of human souls from one life to another.


The upper right hand holds a damru or an hourglass shaped object which has a double significance. Some scholars believe that the first syllable of sound came from Shiva’s damru while others claim that the triangular upward and downward representation of the damru symbolizes the male and female procreative potential, namely, the Lingam, and the Yoni. The creation of the world begins when the lingam and the yoni meet at the mid-point of the damru.

Shiva and Dance


Shiva as Nataraja or the Cosmic Dancer is the second most popular form of Shiva worship, after the Shivalingam. The very idea of dance carries within it a variety of significations. Dance, according to ancient Hinduism, is used to induce trance, ecstasy and the experience of the divine. Dance was meant to be a rhythmic release of energy which was aimed at approaching God. Therefore, Nataraja, represented the rhythmic movement of the entire cosmos.

According to Hindu mythology, Shiva’s dance symbolizes the cosmic cycles of creation and annihilation as well as the daily rhythms of birth and death. Shiva’s dance is perceived by some scholars as the source of all movement within the universe. According to historian, Anand Coomaraswamy, Shiva’s dance represents five essential activities: ‘Shrishti‘ or creation;’ ‘Sthiti‘ or preservation’, ‘Samhara‘ or destruction’, ‘Tirobhava‘ or illusion; and ‘Anugraha‘ or emancipation. In this way the figure heightens its paradoxical nature by uniting its inner tranquillity with outer activity.

The dance of Nataraja is not just a myth. There is a vivid logic behind it. Nataraj’s dance is an allegory of the human condition. Shiva, here, is not just a personal God but a universal principle. The place of the dance, Chidambaram, which is regarded as the centre of the universe, is actually symbolic of the human heart. Shiva performs the dance of Nature.

At an individual level, man is a unity in himself. But at the same time he identifies with the cosmos and is in harmony with the world around him. As Coomaraswamy says, “Everywhere is God, everywhere is the heart.” Shiva’s dance destroys ego, and achieves a state where the self is free of illusion and impure deeds. Shiva dances in order to destroy, to create and destroy again.


Shiva’s physical structure and his dance is an evidence of the superior intelligence of the ancient Indian philosophers who created this magnificent metaphor of the perfect man in complete harmony with Nature.

The cultural history of India is full of myths but every myth has logic behind it. All of them relate to a way of living and conducting life. They educate us on the realities of existence and ways of being in amity with our natural surroundings. The irony is that in our efforts to simplify our lives, we manage to complicate it even further. A careful look at our deities would provide simple answers to our complicated questions.